When Dad was in early stages of Alzheimer’s, I was clueless about his needs. What Christmas gift to give him? Socks, shirts, jigsaw puzzles with 100 to 500 pieces, music CDs … I wasn’t very creative. In later stages, gift ideas were simple—jigsaw puzzles with 30 to 50 pieces and books with lots of big photos of animals, especially puppies. He looked at those picture books again and again. When dogs visited the nursing home, Dad’s face lit up and he reached out to scratch behind the dog’s ears. When I wheeled Dad past a life-sized plush Lab kept by one nurses’ station, Dad always petted and scratched it. So my sister and I bought him a life-sized plush Husky dog for Christmas one year; and although he smiled and scratched behind his Husky’s ears, his brain was too far gone at that point to really enjoy the dog. I wish we’d had the Husky gift idea the previous Christmas, when Dad might even have been able to remember that for 70 years he had cheered his college sports team, the Huskies.
Are you searching for gift ideas for your loved one living
with Alzheimer’s, or for his/her caregivers? Caregiver.com has an Alzheimer’s
Association article, “Holiday Gift Ideas for People with Alzheimer’s and Their
Caregivers.” You can read it here.
We were not in a position to buy gifts for personal caregivers; my mother
usually gave a gift card to the two aides who alternately cared for my dad and
a huge box of chocolates to the nurses for the whole department. But I like all
the gift ideas the Caregiver.com article presents. To their suggested books I
would add Lori Hogan’s second book for caregivers, Strength for the Moment. My
favorite gift idea from the article is self-made coupons for your services and
time.
The Caregiver.com article divides gift ideas for your loved
ones into categories by stage of the disease’s progression. I most resonate
with their music and photo collage suggestions. My father took great pleasure
in both. Regarding the scented lotion idea, thumbs up on the lotion, with an
additional suggestion to offer to massage it gently into your loved one’s hands
and arms. A huge thumbs down, however, on the scented aspect. Chemical
fragrances have been shown to cause headaches (in 30% of people) and confusion,
so skip the scents, please!
Giving gifts is an act of joy. With these holiday gift ideas
and some creative gift ideas of your own, you’ll bring lots of joy this Christmas.